Don't Quit Your Day Job

Caedmon's been talking about wanting to go to a Sharks' hockey game for quite some time. Andy thought it'd be a fun "bonding" experience for them, so he got some tickets to a preseason game. I looked for some Sharks' apparel at Target and Walmart, but everything they had was more than I wanted to spend.

I decided to make matching T-shirts for Caedmon & Andy with an "iron-on" Sharks' logo. I thought it'd be so simple...akin to applying a temporary tattoo. Unfortunately, I may be one of the least "crafty" people in the world, so even an iron-on project proved too difficult for me.

First mistake: I forgot that you have to invert the picture that you want to print so that the letters don't iron on backwards. Fortunately I realized this BEFORE I ironed them on to the tshirts. I had one extra sheet of the iron-on paper and just reprinted the logos...this time inverted.

The next problem came when trying to peel off the paper...it either wouldn't come or it took the image with it. No, my friend, it was NOT like trying to apply a temporary tattoo.

The shirts were unwearable and ended up in our trash can last night. (So much for saving money, huh?)

My back-up plan was to draw (trace) the logo on a plain white tshirt with a Sharpie marker. It looked more than a little ghetto, but that's the beauty of being a kid. If you're unashamed to wear your Spiderman costume to Walmart, you're not going to be embarrassed to wear a tshirt with a Sharpie marker drawing on it. It actually makes you feel cool, especially if your mom spikes your hair.

Caedmon's best tough-guy look

 Sammy wanted his picture taken, too.

He looks so short next to Caedmon.

Such an amazing dad. 

Caedmon has no idea how blessed he is.

This picture of Caedmon is SO classic. 

I promise you that he could be at Disney World and

have this expression on his face. Gratefulness is not 

one of his strongest virtues...

Caedmon's buddies, Nico & Aiden 

(and their dads) also came to the game.

Yeah, they had nose-bleed seats. Still had fun, though!

Happy Birthday, Caedmon!

Caedmon turned 4 years old two weeks ago. We ended up having 4 different celebrations...birthday party with friends, actual birthday complete with a playdate and dinner at Red Robbin (Caedmon's pick) with the family, cupcakes at his preschool, and one more when a package arrived a few days after the big day!

We had a great time celebrating his life! Here are a few of my favorite pics:

Spiderman Cupcakes...Caedmon wanted me to draw

Spiderman on the cupcake. I told him a web was as

close as I could get!

Spiderman masks instead of party hats

Cailyn Santos enjoying her cupcake

 All the kiddos

Present time...everyone wanted to help!

A $5 Spiderman umbrella was Caedmons #1 birthday wish

 Caedmon got a new friend/pen pal via Compassion International.

His friend, Yohannis, is from Ethiopia and is the same age as Caedmon.

 

Birthday celebration at preschool.

The teachers have told us that they often have to separate 

Caedmon & Lily because they do everything together.

Mommy & the birthday boy...love this pic

 Presents from Mimi & Papa.

These have been a huge hit around here!

Love that kid. Happy Birthday to my precious Caedmon!

One Month Review

Sammy has been home for one month now, and what a month it has been! I feel like I am just now getting my feet back under me (a little) and my emotions regulated. Everything I had read during this adoption process had told me to prepare for a difficult transition home that would work it's way out with time. But after being with Sammy in Ethiopia, seeing his personality, and having zero problems with him when I had full custody of him there in-country, I thought..."Oh, not for us. This transition won't be that bad." I stand corrected.

It takes time for Sammy to bond with us. I expected this, and he honestly has far exceeded my expectations in this category (in a good way). He extremely loving and affectionate...kisses and hugs all day long. Sammy has the personality type that just assumes everyone loves him and thinks he's adorable...which he is.

What I did not expect (at least for myself) is that it takes time for us to bond with him. I felt so bonded to Sammy before we ever had him. Before I ever saw his picture or knew his name, I was in love with him. I have been totally blindsided by my need to GROW in my love-relationship with him. This has actually been very difficult for me and I've carried an extreme amount of guilt and cried many, many tears this month as a result of it. I just assumed I would automatically have the same bond with Sammy that I have with Caedmon. I will one day, but I'm learning that it takes time to develop. I've had 4 years to develop this bond with Caedmon and only 4 weeks with Sammy.

It takes time for Sammy to feel safe and secure in our family. Right now, Sammy fears that every time I walk out of the room I may have just walked out of his life forever. He screams a petrified scream if he can't see us or find us for more than 10 seconds. I leave his door open at nap time and AS SOON as I hear him stir, I RUN into the room so he'll see me right away. If I don't hear him for some reason, screaming will soon commence.

Sammy's difficulty with sleep has been the most challenging part for us. He will only fall asleep if he can see me (or Andy), so I have to sit by his bed until he's asleep for naptime and at night. Whereas he would sleep for 2-3 hours every afternoon in Ethiopia, he will only take a 1-1 1/2 hour nap here. Once he wakes up, he is jolted awake and will not fall back asleep.

You'd think the shorter naps would make him extra tired and he would sleep great at night. Not so much. Sammy wakes up (on average) about 4 times a night. He sleeps in a pack-n-play right by my side of the bed. Most nights we're able to lay him right back down and he'll immediately go back to sleep. Other nights, however, there is so much screaming that you'd think he's in physical pain. But he's not. I think it's just fear and grief.

It's like Sammy tries to keep his eyes open as much as he possibly can to make sure we're still there. He only sleeps when his body absolutely demands it and he cannot hold his eyes open anymore.

My sister has a son who is almost exactly the same age as Sammy. When I shared this with her she said, "That makes me so sad. I just imagine if Caleb was in this situation. What if something happened to us and Caleb was being cared for by someone else, even by you? He would be so confused and sad and upset. He's old enough to know exactly what he wants, but there's no way he could have it."

Sammy has lost everything. And though, from our perspective, he has absolutely GAINED everything, he did not asked to be put in this situation. I have to remind myself of this when I'm sleep deprived and he doesn't seem quite as cute or endearing.

Adoption, being a mom, or living a life that honors Christ is not about my comfort, my convenience, or my desires. It is about laying down my life to serve and love others the way that Christ has served and loved me. "Loving" someone has a lot more to do with a choice and a commitment than a feeling. So these are the verses that I am claiming for myself during this season. I feel like they so perfectly speak to my need at this time:

This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers [sons]...Let us love not with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in His presence whenever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts, and He knows everything.           1 John 3:16, 18-20

I'll Be Back...

I love to write. It's therapy for me. So, if I am not writing much on this blog, it is typically the result of one of two reasons:

1- I am super busy and just don't have the time.
                            or
2- I am not in the best place emotionally and don't want to be a downer to the whole blogosphere.

My absence these days is a combination of both. I'll just say this...adjusting to our new normal has been way more difficult than I expected. I have more questions than answers, more things to do than time to do them, and more crazy thoughts and emotions than I'd like to admit. One day I will share some of these thoughts and emotions, but for now it's too raw.

However, I do write blogs all day long...you'd just have to be able to read my mind to know what I've written because they never quite make it to the computer. Hang on, Blog Fans...I'll be back one day soon.

It ain't Giada, but it'll work...

Last night I was in the need for a quick meal that I all the ingredients for already on hand. It was a pretty good meal to be able to throw together in 30 minutes. So, if you have a busy day and no time to grocery shop, here's a good "go to" meal.

Creole Tilapia
(Buy a big bag of frozen tilapia from Costco or your grocery store to keep on hand)

Preheat oven to 325 degrees. Line up to 6 pieces of fish in a baking dish.
In a skillet, saute 2 chopped green onions in a couple tablespoons of butter.
Add:
2 cloves minced garlic
1 bay leaf
1 T. lemon juice
1 can stewed tomatoes
1 t. salt
1/2 t. pepper
1/2 t. oregano
1/2 t. basil
1/4 t. red pepper
Cook until heated well. Pour over fish and bake in oven uncovered for 20-25 minutes depending on thickness of fish.

When you stick the fish in the oven, start cooking some rice. (I like Jasmine Rice.) They'll get done about the same time.

Then start on the green beans. Typically, I like these green beans that I posted about here. But when I'm in a hurry or don't have fresh on hand, these aren't too shabby.

Sweet Green Beans
(plan about 1 can of beans per 3 people)

In a sauce pan. Cook on medium low for 15-20 minutes.
1 can whole green beans. Drain half the juice.
Chop a little onion (maybe a couple tablespoons)
A little olive oil
Sprinkle with salt, pepper, and dried basil
About a teaspoon of sugar or Splenda.

Open a couple cans of sliced peaches to serve with the meal.

So the whole meal consists of Creole Tilapia served over rice, sweet green beans, and peaches. Not exactly the meal I would want to "show off" with for company, but it'll work!